What’s in YOUR Reflection?


Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.

~Iyanla Vanzant


Think back over the past week. Select several things that happened to you. First notice: were there more “good” or “bad” memories? That alone should be an indication of how you view your world.

Did you remember the things that were less than what you had desired, made you mad, caused you upset, or were painful? Or, did you recall joyful, fulfilling, fun or successful actions?

Feel the difference?

Our perspective has a major impact on how we view life and the things that happen. We can CHOOSE to view the world in a positive light—or not. And this correlates to how we perceive our own self-worth.

When you approach a situation, do you think, “I’ll be OK no matter what happens.” Or do you “hope for the best but expect the worst.”? Do you label things that happen to you as problems or opportunities?

The way we look at life is an immediate reflection of how we view our place in the world, our power, and our self-esteem.

If we respect ourselves, possess self-confidence and trust in our ability to land on our feet no matter what, we become resilient to the events in our lives. Things no longer happen “to” us. We lose the victim mentality because we are strong and self-assured, and because we consciously CHOOSE our reactions.

Opportunities appear, and “problems” become challenges to learn from and overcome.

With self-respect you know what you will and will not accept in your life. You are certain that you can determine your path in life, ignoring the voices of the naysayers. You strongly believe in your own power, which gives you tenacity and courage.

From this viewpoint, anything is possible!


Your Call to Action

Notice your self-talk for the next week. Where do you: Put yourself down? Compare yourself to others? Deny your true abilities? Dilute compliments?

In each of these cases, reframe your self-talk. Put yourself down or deny your true abilities? State your truth and believe it. Stuck in comparison? Tell yourself you are enough as you are. Receive a compliment? Say, “I really am … “ (and fill in the same words from the compliment)

How does changing your self-talk affect you?



What’s in YOUR Reflection? — 2 Comments

  1. Great article! I wholeheartedly agree. I view the world from a power perspective. I know I can effect any change I want for my life. We are powerful beings!

    • Hats off to you! It took me a looong time to get here. And I’m not going back to the way it used to be.