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April 29

Time for an attitude check.

Life happens and most of it is beyond our control. When something unexpected occurs how do you react? Are you drawn to a positive or negative perspective?

happiness HumboldtYou know, your reaction definitely is under your control, even if the events are not.You get to choose how you respond. You can look for the good in a situation, the possible opportunities and blessings in disguise, or you can fold inward, brace yourself for the negative outcomes, and label it as another failure.

Some of us naturally go for the darker interpretation. And it’s important to recognize that this view is just that: an interpretation.

If you can choose to see only the negative, you can also choose to see the positive.

It comes with practice. And trust in yourself. And responsibility for how you want to feel, along with a willingness to refuse to look at the negative.

As with all skills, it takes practice. And the benefits are many. The more you look for the positive, the more you will actually see it. You will encounter fewer obstacles in all aspects of your life. And you will feel greater happiness. What’s not to like?

So, get out those rose-colored glasses, crank up the positive self talk, add a gorgeous smile and shout, “Look out world, I choose happiness!”

Now it’s your turn…

Think of a difficult or challenging situation that happened or is happening in your life. How you are responding to it? Take a moment and look, really hard if necessary, for anything positive about the situation – it may not be obvious so continue thinking until you find the nugget. If nothing else, every situation is a learning experience and that’s a positive!

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April 22

Wow! Today’s quote comes right to the point, doesn’t it? So, I’ll do the same: What are  you putting off in your life?
Come on, get honest here.
Maybe you’re using phrases like “…as soon as…” or “…when I have more…”.
As in, “as soon as…”
I get that new job… Picasso quote
I retire…
I lose 15 pounds…
Or, how about, “when I have more…”
time…
money…
energy…

So, let’s get real. No one knows how long they’re destined to be on this earth. Your best laid plans may come to pass because you’ll live long enough. Or not.

Are you really willing to take that chance? Do you want to pass from this life with regrets?
I know I don’t. I plan to live each moment to the fullest. I’m traveling NOW because I may not be able to in the future. I’m seizing the moment NOW because I have no idea what the future holds for me.
Carpe diem!

Now it’s your turn…

Choose one thing you’re putting off because of…whatever. Are you willing to die leaving that undone? Yup, I know you’re not. So what’s one thing you can do today to move you closer to making that happen? And when you Inner Critic pops up and tries to dissuade you, what are you going to tell it?
Excellent. I knew you had it in you!

 

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April 15

Come to the edge… how does that make you feel? Excited? Scared? Curious? Dizzy?

come to the edge quoteI recently spent time at the Grand Canyon. This time it was a totally different experience from my first visit. This time I calmly sat on the edge, without the pounding heart and feeling of panic at being so close to the extreme drop off.

What had changed?

I’ve grown into a risk taker – one small step at a time, until what once scared the bejeezus out of me, I no longer let bother me. I focus my attention on what I do want rather than on what I don’t want.

I sat on the edge at Pima Point so I could photograph the glorious sunset. My mind was on the play of light and array of ever changing colors as the sun gradually slid below the mesas and peaks of the overlook.

Could I have fallen? Certainly. Was I too close to the drop off? Probably. Did I care? Not really. I was taking a calculated risk to do what I love.

It was worth it. Enough said.

The next risk will be even bigger…and better.

 

Now it’s your turn…

Where’s your edge? What “what-iffing” holds you back? Building your courage muscle takes time, with lots of baby steps. So, what’s one little thing you can do  – today – to come closer to the edge? Because once you reach your edge…you WILL fly.

 

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April 8

life is too short
Animosity and resentment…fancy names for what we feel when we believe we have been treated unfairly. They were hurtful, mean, or thoughtless. They didn’t meet our expectations. Poor me. Look what they did to me.
Looks like this is about them. But is it?

Life isn’t fair. It just isn’t. And there’s not a thing we can do about that fact.

So why do we choose to keep picking at our scabs?

I believe that we continue certain behaviors because they provide a benefit to us. So, what benefit are you getting from the resentments you hold? If you weren’t seeing some advantage, you’d move on. Really.

Maybe you believe that you can somehow change the past. Or that you must have some justice. Maybe you just have to be right. Or this is your way of getting attention.

“But, it isn’t fair!” you proclaim.

Right. But how you react to life’s unfairness is your choice. It’s not up to them.

You have control over your own behavior and attitudes. You will never have this control over others.

Maybe you need to forgive someone – not to change them, but to release yourself from the animosity.

So, forgive what you can and then practice selective forgetting about all the rest.

Isn’t it time to get on with your life and your happiness?

Now it’s your turn…

Think of some resentment you may be harboring. Really feel the hurt, anger…whatever strong emotions arise. Now take action. You can tell the person how their behavior made you feel. If that’s not appropriate or it’s too scary to do, then write out your feelings, or shout your feelings out loud. It’s important to express these emotions in some way so that you can release them. Congratulations! You have just moved closer to not letting your past dictate your future!

 

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April 1

It’s April Fools Day!

Kids love this day because they can pull practical jokes on those of us who tend to take life so very seriously – making us into their April Fools.

And many of us find the hoaxes and jokes, so, well, childishexperience a little foolishness

But what if we allowed some fun, play, and foolishness into our lives? What if our Inner Child was given permission to appear, even if only occasionally?

What if we loosened our need to appear mature and so damn serious? What if we stuck out our tongues or put Silly Putty on our noses or twirled around until we got wonderfully dizzy?

How would our lives change?

 

Now it’s your turn…

Your assignment, should you decide to take it on, is to laugh and celebrate foolishness throughout the day. Letting the child inside of you have full rein, at least for a while.

And in case you need some prank ideas, here are some to get you started.

 

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March 25

Wake up each morning with a smile on your face.

Really??!  Carole King quote

More likely it’s with hair spiking out, creases from sleeping so hard, and grumpiness because you can no longer hit the snooze button.

Sound more like your reality?

Well, let’s try a different perspective. Studies has shown that smiling – even if it’s not what you’re truly feeling – can be a mood lifter. Your smile can create stress-reduction chemicals in your brain (no prescription needed). And, your smile is contagious. Just as seeing someone else yawn creates that response in us, so does smiling at another person. Which means you’re contributing to making the world a more cheerful place.

Cool.

 

Now it’s your turn…

Tomorrow, try this scenario:

The alarm rings. You put on a smile, even if it’s fake, promising to wear that smile for 5 minutes. Your endorphins begin to party, your mood lifts, and the day starts off on a happier note.

What’s not to like?


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