Dec. 27 ♥ Celebrate and Complete 2016

So many people have looked upon 2016 as the worst year, ever. And yet… There have been really good times, right? This is the time of year when many of us hunker down, stay close to the fire and wait for the wintry blasts to end. And yet… We want to feel hopeful for the bright New Year. I’m recommending that we all — me included — take some time for reflection on this past year, taking stock of what occurred in our lives. It’s really important to find the gifts, lessons, challenges and blessings from the year that is ending. In this way we can truly celebrate what has come before and release whatever needs to be so we can start fresh with clarity as our New Year arrives. Along this lifetime path of discovery you will come to deeply know yourself, grow in wisdom, and rejoice in sharing your own, unique gifts, which the world sorely needs. You need to review this past year to recognize it happened to you for a reason. You may totally understand that or maybe the meaning is hidden in a cloudy mist right now. Either way, it’s OK. What’s important is the process of introspection and celebration that will help you clear the debris so that beautiful, gorgeous you can make room for the new possibilities that will be coming in your New Year. And so, I am offering a gift to help you examine this past year and set your intentions for … Continue reading

Nov. 23 ♥ Finding Gratitude when Bad Things Happen

Most people find it fairly easy to find gratitude for their blessings But how many of us can find gratitude for the bad things that happen to us? Or for the things we don’t want in our lives? Too often we respond as the victim when something bad happens to us. Or we concentrate on all of the things we’d like to be eliminated from our lives. Fair enough. We get to be human. We’re allowed to fell anger, jealousy, maybe even resentment. Sometimes our world gets turned upside down and we become totally numb. But the problem comes when we choose to stay in that mode, as angry, resentful, victim. My first husband died unexpectedly at a rather young age. I was lost initially in the throes of anger, disbelief, and traumatized shock. And I could have chosen to stay there. Everyone around me would have understood. I admit I was locked into this state for many months, and then barely able to function for many, many months after that. If someone had asked me to be grateful for the experience, I would have raged and sworn like a stevedore. Being grateful felt like insanity — for an extremely long time. And yet, over time as I processed my grief and came to terms with what had happened, I also began to open up to other opportunities: helping other women plan for surviving their spouses, which turned into empowering women in all aspects of their lives, which turned into … Continue reading

December 30 ♥ Celebrate and Complete 2015

It’s a time for resolutions and goal setting for the New Year. And most often we do this without reflecting back on the past year and taking stock of what occurred in our lives. You don’t want to live a same-old, same-old kinda life, so why would you want to create the same-old, same-old resolutions and intentions? It’s really important to find the gifts, lessons, challenges and blessings from the year that is ending. In this way we can truly celebrate what has come before and release whatever needs to be so that we start fresh with clarity as our New Year arrives. My New Year’s gift to you, dear one, is a series of questions to help you examine your past year and open to the possibilities of your New Year. And, I’d love to hear how this exercise resonated with you! Now it’s your turn: You can access my recommended Celebration of 2015 and Intention Setting for 2016 here. … Continue reading

Giving Thanks for the Unpleasantness

I am grateful to Life for allowing me to experience exactly what my heart needs to grow and prosper and heal. ― Cheryl Richardson   When was the last time you made a conscious effort to express gratitude for the not-so-pleasant things in your life? Wait! Don’t turn away just yet. My idea isn’t as crazy as it may first appear. It’s ever so much easier to say thanks for the “good” things in life: that new job, a special vacation, the birth of a grandchild, wonderful friends and family.  I’m sure you could add another 10 items easily. Right? But what about those not-so-great things? That fall you took causing a torn muscle? Or the fender bender you caused? Maybe it was being passed over for a raise or the death of your beloved pet? Or budget belt tightening? Or a seriously ill relative? Or your own health concerns? How have you expressed your gratitude for those events? Seriously. How did you give thanks for the unpleasantness in your life? The fabric of our lives is woven together by evens “good” and “bad” (our definition), by challenges and victories, by laughter and tears. By a wonderful variety of ups and downs, and status quo. Each of these variations in the rhythm of our lives occurs for a purpose. Often the lesson will be apparent. Sometimes the mystery of the “why” cannot be solved, at least not yet. I believe these variations provide contrasts to deepen our experience as humans. How … Continue reading

What’s in YOUR Harvest?

The season for enjoying the fullness of life—partaking of the harvest, sharing the harvest with others, and reinvesting and saving portions of the harvest for yet another season of growth. ~ Denis Waitley   Here in the Northern Hemisphere the nights are getting cooler. The skies are a brilliant blue, colors are more vibrant, and shadows are sharp. It’s as if Mother Nature were producing one last, stupendous hurrah before the darker, colder months descend upon us. As I look out my window, I appreciate this time of change, these golden autumnal days, and I give thanks for the fruits of the summer. As the final agricultural harvests occur, I’m also reminded that this is truly a time when we reap what we have sown, both as fact and as metaphor. Fall is a perfect time to review the previous months of this year, to note our harvests—the experiences and accomplishments we’ve had. Reflecting on your year, which of these have flowered and brought something into your life? Which have been more like weeds, crowding out your dreams? As the final agricultural harvests occur, I’m also reminded that this is truly a time when we reap what we have sown, both as fact and as metaphor. Fall is a perfect time to review the previous months of this year, to note our harvests—the experiences and accomplishments we’ve had. This exercise is not about noticing which list is longer, the flowers or the weeds. It’s a time for reflection so you can express gratitude for … Continue reading