I am convinced that material things can contribute a lot to making one’s life pleasant, but, basically, if you do not have very good friends and relatives who matter to you, life will be really empty and sad and material things cease to be important.
My mom always told me that if something was important enough to me, I would make sure to find time for it. As a kid growing up that seemed so logical to me. Way back then I could always find the time to do what I considered the important things, and still get all of my other stuff done.
Of course, back in my ancient history, I didn’t have so many responsibilities, outside concerns, stressors and things tugging on me. At least that’s what I told myself; when I actually took time to reflect.
Over time, I lost my sense of what was most valuable to me, figuring that those close to me would “understand” why I was putting career, connections, and just about everything else before them. I mean, my family would always be there. Right? They knew why I had to do what I was doing. Right? And so I spiraled into putting inordinate emphasis on what society labeled as important.
I became an expert at convincing myself that these extraneous things were vitally important to me and there would always be enough time to catch up with my family.
As far as taking care of my physical well-being? Forgeddaboutit.
Many of my previous choices have led to major regrets. Slowly, and over time I have come to recognize what I most value: family, friends, good health, spiritual development, and living with purpose.
I now ensure that there is time for these things in my life.
This means that I have to let other things go.
I have renounced my superwoman title—I was deluding myself with that label anyhow.
Ultimately this means that I need to evaluate what I am going to do on any given day, making sure that what I agree to puts more emphasis on quality and value to me. The voices of “others” have much less sway over me now.
Now I choose to emphasize what is fulfilling and important to me, society’s definition be damned.
I guess mom was right.
Your Call to Action
Review your activities for 1-3 days. What does this list tell you about where you put your emphasis? Feel “yes, buts” starting? Notice why you are rationalizing your choices, for that’s what you’re doing. Pause, and listen to what your heart is telling you to do differently. From this place, choose one thing you are going to make more time for during the next 30 days. What gift will be there if you follow through?
Post what you are going to make time for here. And remember, your email will not be made public, just your name/nickname. Let others see what choice you have made. You’ll be surprised by how alike we all are!