June 2010

It’s hot. Really, really hot. And humid. Central Pennsylvania in the summer can be a challenge, especially without air conditioning. So, my thoughts turn to cooler things.

One cool thing I’d like to share with you is something I stumbled upon several years ago. I signed up on a whim, and have never looked back.

I discovered tut.com Once I signed up, I began receiving incredibly insightful messages from The Universe (!) in my email In Box. I know. I’m a bit of a “woo-woo” person. But don’t dismiss this just yet.

Every day I receive a reminder that I am loved by a power greater than myself. I am reminded of life’s magic. I get a boost, a push to keep on trying, a reminder that life is an adventure, that I shouldn’t take things so seriously, that my dreams will come true.

Makes opening my email a delight each morning, rather than a groaner.

Hats off to Mike Dooley! TUT offers words that are “spiritual but not religious, inspirational without commitment, empowering yet caffeine-free!”

In the words of the Monkees, I’m a believer!

Here’s to celebrating the wisdom of The Universe,


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Ways to Kiss Should Goodbye

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Should. Appears to be an innocent enough word. How many times a day do you use this word?

On the surface it means recommendation, advisability, obligation, expectation. But it also has an implicit
definition: the should comes from someone else’s point of view, not yours. How many times have you done
something based on what other people expect?

As in, “You should clean the house.” “You should dress in brighter colors.” “You should bake
cookies, not buy them.” “You should lose weight.” Or the reverse. “You shouldn’t try for that more
advanced job. ” “You shouldn’t expect to be happy in your life.” “You shouldn’t take risks because
of <fill in the blank>.”

Should. It’s a powerful, judgmental voice. It implies that you don’t have your own answers.

So, my questions is: how have you been talking to yourself lately? Ready to make a change? Want to make choices based on your
values, not those of others?

When you feeling a should coming on, see if one of the following phrases resonates with you. Then use that
section to help you discover the real motivation behind the should. Make a pledge to let go. With practice you can replace the
other voices and contrary agendas around you with your own values-based choices.

If you feel a should or should not coming on…ask…

    Whose voice is really telling me I this?
    Often we have unexamined values that we swallowed whole from our parents, schools, or other authority figures.
    Where is your should/should not really coming from? Is it still serving you?

    Am I going to do this because it’s what I’ve done in the past?
    Often we allow old, limiting beliefs to continue to influence our choices. Or, we adhere to old,
    outdated rules that we no longer question. How badly do you want to change?

    Won’t <fill in the name> think I will be letting them down?
    Is this just a disguise for trying to please someone? Are you trying to take care of something that really belongs
    to someone else? Are you being manipulated?

    What would people think, if I do/don’t…?
    This is really a question based on what you fear. So, what’s your fear factor? Rejection? Loss of a relationship?
    Realizing your own power?

Growth is about learning and unlearning. It’s about shedding a past that no longer serves us. It’s about
reclaiming parts of ourselves that may have been cast off. The payoff: watching your own, true, inner voice grow
louder. Feeling your personal power blossom. Overcoming your fear of change, which will lead to a more
satisfying and fulfilling life. Pretty cool benefit, no?

Make it so.

~Captain Picard

Star Trek: The Next Generation