Do you know what matters in your life?
My words always said that family and friends are the most important things to me. And yet my actions told another story.
I spent more time on my career and outside interests than I did with my family and friends. An embarrassing truth.
And it cost me. Friendships became strained and personal relationships were stretched to the breaking point.
I lost connection with my daughter. My first husband and I became mostly roommates. I grew more distant from my sibs. And some friends just faded away.
I assumed that people knew how important they were to me, but the evidence seldom showed up in my behavior. I assumed, and assumed, figuring they knew how I really felt — until the consequences caught up with me.
My goal in sharing this cautionary story is to serve as a wake-up call to others who may be heading in the same direction I had been going. And to put it in even greater perspective think about this: when you’re on your deathbed, how much value will you put on your career, the acclaim you garnered, the successes you had? Wouldn’t you rather be surrounded by family and friends, by the people who mattered the most in your life?
And just so you know: I finally wised up and got my priorities straight, although I can still become overly distracted by things that, in the end, really don’t matter. Today I choose to let those important to me know how much they matter to me — often. I’m a grateful work in progress.
Now It’s Your Turn
Who really matters to you in your life? If they gave you a grade on how important you made them feel, what would you get? Are you satisfied with that mark? If not, what will you do to change it?