Before you can win, you have to believe you are worthy.
~ Mike Ditka
I recently had a friend who was quite elated at the opportunities and success coming her way. She happily listed all of the possibilities in her professional life. And then she tagged on, “Until I have to pay the price.”
Um, excuse me?
Why would she assume that since her life was really humming that soon everything would take a downturn? Why would she jump to the conclusion that there’s a debt to be repaid?
Her hidden dialogue probably went something like this: “ Life is good. My work is gaining recognition. Enjoy it now because it won’t last. And, I’m not worthy of having this happen again and again.”
I know many of you can relate to this feeling. I’ve been there often enough myself.
Somehow my friend had made up the story that there is an enormous balance scale kept in the ether, and that weighing down too heavily on one side of the scale would eventually cause an equal and opposite reaction in the other direction.
Newton’s law of motion may apply in physics. It does not apply to what happens to us on our life’s journey!
Here she was preparing herself for something that may never happen: her “good fortune” would fade away. Which also means that she was not fully enjoying her life right now. She was already worrying about the “what ifs” and the “debt” she was going to have to pay off. She was wasting a lot of energy waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Has a variation of this story ever happened to you? Here are some tips to help you break out of this unhealthy thinking.
Release the need to feel that you “just got lucky” when good things are happening in your life. You had a role in making this happen. You may have done the upfront work, or saved enough money, or brought the right people together, or been in the right place at the right time. Recognize your responsibility in making this situation happen.
Savor what is going on in your life right now. Be present and celebrate. Don’t just give yourself a checkmark and rush headlong into the next thing.
Choose your perspective on life because you have the power to do so. You can choose to believe that having good things in your life is your birthright. And you can choose to believe your Inner Critic and the voices of others. What you decide determines how you frame what happens to you: I deserve this v. I am temporarily lucky. Choose wisely.
Your Call to Action:
Make a list of why you deserve your dreams and heart’s desires (a minimum of 10 items; bonus points for more than 20). Where will you post this list to keep it fresh in your mind? Find a small empty box and label it “limiting beliefs”. What limiting beliefs can you put into this box to get them out of your way?