Learning How to Receive

Life circumstances forced me to see an orthopedic surgeon last week. Skimming over the boring details, he ultimately got to the “s” word: surgery. I knew it was coming, and yet I hoped for a different discussion. Bottom line: I’ll be spending the summer in a sling, unable to drive.

What? No wheels? But, but… How will I act on a whim and just take myself out for a hike? Run errands? Treat myself to lunch away from home?

And then the more mundane thoughts come—how will I blow dry and manage my hair or put on eyeliner? No impromptu photo shoots. And the list keeps growing the more I think about this.

Two very dear friends told me that they would help me out. And I know there are others I can call on, too. But the really tough part, beyond the physical limitations, is going to be asking for the help.

Me? Ask for help?! Miss Independence?

I think the Universe is presenting me with a much-needed set of lessons. I am going to have to ask for help, admit I’m vulnerable, and can’t do this on my own. Gulp…

Oh, and did I mention that my house goes on the market this week and I may have to move to temporary housing while my new house is being built?

As I gain more perspective on my upcoming change, I know that if a friend is struggling, I’d be right there offering my help. They know they can depend on me. Why not offer them the opportunity to let me depend on them, for a change?

And the lessons keep on coming.


Your Call to Action:

What would shift in your life if you asked for help? What scares you about asking for that help? What do you need to let go of, to be able to say, “Could you help me with this?”

Asking is the beginning of receiving.

Make sure you don’t go to the ocean with a teaspoon.

At least take a bucket so the kids won’t laugh at you.

~ John Rohn



Learning How to Receive — 3 Comments

  1. Hi Robin!
    Good luck with the surgery, I hope it all goes well!
    Asking for help is hard, but you are loved by so many, and they will be happy to assist you in any way. Let them, it will be humbling, and rewarding!
    Hugs, Mairi.xx

  2. I realize that the Universe is presenting me with a perfect opportunity to learn patience and how to rely on others sometimes. Your kindd words of encouragement are really helpful.

  3. Right on Robin! You have desribed my situation perfectly. Even when I am mindful of what I think I need, there is still a part of me that buys for the reasons you mentioned, in short to make me feel special, to feel better.
    I too have been watching my belongings disappear into a moving truck [unfortunately that is not the only thing that has disappeared; my cat ran away. This has extremely upset my wife]

    Thank you for your blog.
    I read it every week, and it’s like you are speaking to me directly, so much of the time.
    Be well,