How often we do look outward for validation? How often do we ask, “Do these jeans look good on me?” Or, “What should I wear to the party?” Or, “Could I really handle that job?” Or, “Do you think a woman could do that?”
How often do we compare ourselves to others, thinking we are too fat, too thin, too old, too young, and so on. And never quite measuring up.
And then, how often do we beat up on ourselves? Holding impossible standards just for us. Replaying what we should-a, could-a, would-a done. Never truly accepting that we make mistakes.
See a common theme here?
All of these questions—and I’m certain you know many more variations—come from a fear that we are inadequate in some way. We refuse to believe that we are enough, just as we are. We prefer to hang out in “If Only Land” incorrectly thinking, “If only I were <fill in the blank>, people would like me better.”
What if we treated ourselves as we would our very dearest friend? What if we said to ourselves, “I like you just as you are. You are enough.” What if we learned to like ourselves?
“Remove those ‘I want you to like me’ stickers from your forehead and,
instead, place them where they truly will do the most good – on your mirror!”
~ Susan Jeffers
Your call to action:
Stand in front of your bathroom mirror each day for the coming week. Look into your own eyes and say one thing you like about yourself. You get bonus points if you say five or more things! And, before you run off to whatever is next in your day, take time to notice how you feel. How is this different from other times you have looked in the mirror?