Be Bigger than Your To-do List

One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted to do. Do them now!

~ Paulo Coelho

How often do YOU put off having fun or doing the things you want to do? “Just let me finish one more thing; It’s a weekday, fun happens on my weekends; As soon as…then I can…”

Ring a bell?

Do you believe that there will always be time enough to do the things you want? Cuz, ya know, you’re like so busy doing the things you have to do…, and well, there are those deadlines…and…and…

I, too, am guilty of this, big time. And recently it all caught up with me. Sucked into the vortex of omg I have soooo much to do, it started as I was getting more and more tightly wound up about my work. My self-imposed pressure was sitting heavily on my shoulders. My eyes kept flicking to my self-imposed deadline. And merrily I just kept adding things to my to-do list and more hours to my workday. Add one more thing, sure no prob.

And the oh-too-familiar effects of this insanity? I was ignoring those important to me in my life. I was grabbing food and eating on the run. I was getting up earlier and earlier so I could “catch-up. “ Meditation? Nope, no time.

I was caught in overwhelm. And yet I kept driving myself, lost in my craziness.

Which was followed by the all too predictable crash and burn cycle. Really, not a pretty sight. But then, you probably know just what I mean, right?

This wasn’t the first time I’ve ever done this to myself, as those closest to me know so well. I have a long history of running full blast until my batteries die. I literally hit the wall. Yet the question remains: why do I keep doing this to myself?

Cue the anger, frustration, tears, and doom and gloom music.

In the midst of all of the misery, I actually asked for help. That in itself is progress. Giving up my title as Superwoman is awfully hard!

So, with the help of a very wise woman, who lovingly held up the mirror for me, I finally came to realize that most of this was self-created angst, magnified by my sheer will to suck it up and get on with it. Again. She helped me to recognize that all of the things I want to do and experience before I become dust, keep being put on hold. As if I’m going to live forever!

Listen, I’m not getting any younger. (Probably you’re not either!) And I can’t know if today is my last day on Earth. So, what the hell am I waiting for? The “right” time? The day when I am physically incapable of doing the things I want to do? Do you see what’s wrong with this kind of thinking?

This is the same old story about having balance in your life. About doing what you need to and doing what you want to.  About being a bigger person than your to-do list. About stepping into the fullness of your life.

We’re all accomplished at doing the “have-to” parts of our lives, even as we create our own stress. What if we changed our perspective, and each morning decided what we want to feel and experience today? How would that make a difference in your life?

I’m willing to give it a try. You?

 

Your Call to Action

What is something you really want to experience in your life? What is one step—just one teeny, tiny step—that you can take to bring it closer to reality? What do you have to believe about yourself to take this step? What will help you stay in motion, enabling the experience to happen sooner rather than later? Oh, and don’t forget: you can ask for help!

 

 

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