February 21 ♥ Changing Gears without Changing Direction

So where have I been for the past 6 months? I’ve been changing gears. Some months ago, writing a weekly blog became just another to-do item; my heart really wasn’t in it. I had other creative avenues to explore. At first I thought I wasn’t “allowed”, that I had to honor an implicit agreement with my readers. “Should” was ever present. Once I decided to give myself a respite, I felt freer and lighter. I proactively had given myself permission to explore other creative pursuits. I didn’t put any expiration date on this exploration; rather I told myself I would know when it was time to reconsider writing the blog. Of course, there was a lesson here for me. It’s OK to shift gears. I’m one of those push-push-push types of people who just keep in motion and piling things on because I can. And I seldom stop to reconsider if I want to continue what I’m doing. Or change how I’m doing it. What I discovered was that I needed to take a break. That I needed to explore other creative outlets. That I wanted to refuel my creativity well from different angles. And the interesting thing is that while I consciously took time from writing Wednesday’s Wisdom, the blogs were also rambling around in my head, calling out to me in another form. So, while I was improving my painting and photography skills, and building two women’s networks, I was also writing a book in my head, though … Continue reading

June 7 ♥ Loss: Saved by Heartstrings into Infinity

I lost a very good friend last week. We both knew it was coming, and yet… I was still surprised when it finally happened. I kept expecting some sort of miracle, just for her. Because we clicked instantly when we first met. Because she really understood me, and I got her. Because we truly were kindred spirits brought together by a shared experience. And, I needed her to ground me. But that’s not the way life works. Sometimes it just sucks. So, how do you say goodbye to someone so special? How do you let go of something so precious? Here are some things I am finding helpful. Allowing myself to recognize my feelings, cry when I need to, and laugh at our past antics. My emotions are running the gamut. And I am allowing them to do so. Being gentle with myself and allowing others to offer comfort to fill the void I feel. Letting go of any would-a, could-a, should-a’s. Regret will not change anything in the past. Our time together was what it was. Recalling the important things she taught me, especially spirituality and her favorite mantra: Spirit: teach me, show me, guide me. Seeking the lesson in all of this, and although it alludes me right now, I’m certain it will become evident, eventually. Most importantly I recognize that even though she no longer has a physical presence in my life, she will live on in my thoughts, words, and actions. These are the heartstrings that tie me … Continue reading

May 3 ♥ Keep or Toss? Change the Question…

I have been in this minimizing, clean-out mode for the past month. At first I would carefully consider every item: keep or toss? Seemed straightforward enough. Yet, somehow a “decide later” pile kept appearing. I wasn’t making the kind of progress I had envisioned. I kept plugging along, knowing that I really had to get rid of some things. So I gave away the clothes that were never, ever going to fit me again. I also got rid of all my professional work clothes. No longer had a need to wear them, so what possible purpose were they serving in my closet? And then I added those things that no longer support who I am right now. Adios to books on topics that had once interested me; books I would never read again. Farewell to old cards I had received, magazine articles I planned to read, shoes for special occasions that would never be repeated. Things associated with long-ago hobbies. Yarn that was never going to see the light of day as a garment. Good riddance to things I was “going to get to” once upon a time. Suddenly I have picked up momentum. I have become more ruthless in what I am discarding. And the more I have eliminated the more free and unencumbered I feel. There is more space in my home, and in my being. I am clearing out what no longer serves me or supports who I want to be in the world. I want my home to … Continue reading

Apr 26 ♥ Frustration: the Difference between Reality and Expectation

I know. I’ve been AWOL. It’s been an interesting few weeks. My computer had decided to completely lock up and there wasn’t a thing I could do about it except take it to the Genius Bar. But the saga didn’t end happily there because I had to have the operating system completely reinstalled – which, of course, meant that everything that had existed on my hard drive unceremoniously went to virtual heaven. Happily I knew that all my files were safely tucked away in the Cloud and all I would need to do was download them and begin computing life anew. Alas, that was not to be so easy. I live in rural America, where Internet speed is only something to dream about wistfully. I won’t bore you with all of the gory details. Suffice it to say that after days, and days, and days, and weeks of trying to download by drips and drabs I have some but not all of my files. I know there is probably some Buddhist lesson in here but all I’ve experienced is frustration, anger, and more frustration, although my swearing vocabulary has increased exponentially. So, Anthony Robbins’ quote seems appropriate for this situation although I’m only now beginning to see the frustration as a positive sign! I spent so much time just banging my head against the technological wall. Until my husband mentioned that maybe I should ask for help from an expert. Well, duh. So, I’m headed back to my Apple Store, … Continue reading

Mar 22 ♥ How to Make Room for Opportunity

So many people believe that luck or opportunity only come to certain people because they were in the right place at the right time. I believe that’s bunk. What I know is that opportunity comes from paying attention to everything around me, no matter how far-removed the subject is from my areas of interest or expertise. I am open to new ideas, even half-baked ones because an opportunity may lurk there. I also look for problems or challenges I, myself, or others are having, knowing that an opportunity for a solution may be hiding in the shadows. The key point here is that I make myself ready for potential opportunity to show itself by being very curious about the world. Opportunities are all around me. I look at how to improve things or how I can build on someone else’s idea. I ask myself how I could turn a challenge into a positive. I network with a diverse group of people. I offer to help others, emphasizing my unique skills, which may turn into a springboard of opportunity. Sure, some possibilities and ideas fall into my lap. And I’m grateful for those circumstances. But more often than not, I make myself ready for opportunity! When I find something interesting, I ask some preliminary questions: Is this something I want to tackle? Why do I want to spend my limited energy here? Do I have the time and other resources to take advantage of it? Once I’m clear on my intentions … Continue reading