Following all the rules leaves a completed checklist.
Following your heart achieves a completed you.
Rules help keep society in order. Where would we be without stop signs, passwords for protected web sites, restrictions on who can proscribe drugs? Rules help keep chaos at bay. They offer protection from harm. And they deﬁne societal expectations.
These are all good things, up to a point.
Rules also can have a different effect. Sometimes people hide behind the rules. “I can’t do this because…” Or, “People expect me to…” And maybe even, “I should because…”
Often we allow rules to govern every aspect of our lives until they’re not just keeping chaos at bay, they’re keeping a fulﬁlling life from us.
When was the last time you questioned a rule? Or asked yourself, “Who says I have to do thus and so?”
You know, there are Rules, and then there are “rules”.
While I’m not suggesting that you run a red light to test the Rules, I am offering that you stop and question why you are doing something the way in which you are doing it. Or even why you are doing it at all!
Where is the voice coming from that says something MUST be done this way, or BY you, or that some DIRE consequence will occur if you don’t do such and such.
You know, all of life involves choice. Does following the “rules” make sense for you? If so, then consciously choose to do so.
However, if it is habit, a desire to meet someone’s expectations, or just plain fear, then just like Desi Arnaz says, “You got some ‘splainin’ to do.”
Your Call to Action:
How would it feel to break a “rule”? Who would you be if you did? If you knew you would not come to harm, what “rule” would you break? Take a deep breath, and choose to break that “rule” this week! And then, just notice what shifted for you.