Changing how you speak about your time affects your relationship with it.
~ Danielle LaPorte
Whenever I run into someone I know, I ask them how they’re doing. Invariably the response I get has something to do with being busy, or its variant, exhaustion.
Some of the common responses?
- am swamped,
running on fumes,
can’t keep up,
have too many things to do and not enough time,
yada, yada, yada…”
Why is it that people wear their busyness like a badge of honor? What has brought us to the point that we believe that our degree of busyness equals our importance?
Some of this busyness is inescapable, and some is self-imposed. I believe that inwardly we take a secret pleasure in having so much to do. It gives us an excuse to seek sympathy. “Oh, look at me , I’m just SO busy!”
You know what? I’m busy. You’re busy. We’re ALL busy.
So, if being busy is the standard, and I’m NOT saying it should be, let’s also agree to shut up about it!
Why? Because too often it’s out of habit, a throwaway line, or an excuse, or a way to seek attention, or as in my case, my drug of choice (so I don’t have to think about unpleasant things).
There are only ever going to be 24 hours in a day. Period. We’re just not powerful enough to add more hours to our day.
So, what if we shift how we view and speak about time?
How we choose – and we DO make choices – to use those 24 hours is in our hands. We can choose to view each day’s hours as an ever renewable gift. We can choose to greet the day with a smile. We can choose to make time for ourselves each day. We can choose our attitude toward the hours ahead.
Of course, that means we need to give up the victim role: “they” give me so much to do, “my (fill in the blank) expects me to do X”, “my time is not my own.” And my favorite, “There aren’t enough hours in the day.”
We are not VICTIMS, of time. We are CHOOSERS of how we use our time.
Let that thought sink in.
WE decide how we use our time…if we feel time pressure, it’s because we try to cram so much into our daily allotment. Let’s agree right now that not everything is going to fit – ever, ever, ever!
I’ll reiterate: we CHOOSE how we spend our time each day. The moral of the story: we need to choose wisely what we allow into our day. And we need to reframe how we look at the gift of each new day.
Instead of thinking, “I’ll never get everything done today”, how about reframing that thought into something like, “I have been given the precious gift of another 24 hours and I will consciously choose how I will use them. I will not whine about how busy I am; I will be grateful for each moment.”
Now when I ask you, “How ARE you?”, what’s your answer gonna be?
Your Call to Action
How do you talk about spending time during your day? What do you notice? Where do you act like a victim? If you say, “I’m really busy” in response to someone, what are you REALLY trying to convey?