‘Tis the season to have expectations:
Everyone will get along.
The food will be perfect.
Every gift will be just what they wanted.
Happiness will abound.
Every family member will be on their best behavior.
Ah, Norman Rockwell may be alive and well in our memories but that’s not the reality of our lives around the holidays.
How often have you planned how an experience was going to unfold only to have your expectations rudely thwarted? And how often did you then let your frustrations come spewing forth onto those around you?
Been there. Done that. Still trying to learn the lesson.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Why are we so certain that we know how the future will unfold? Why do we believe we have so much power over life and other people?
Here’s my recommendation for a more peaceful holiday, whichever one you celebrate: let’s all act as if we have no idea what will happen. Let’s recognize that we can only control ourselves; everyone else is on their own autopilot. Let’s relish being in the moment, however that moment turns out.
I promise you, you can eliminate frustration, anger, disappointment, and sadness if you just let go of any preconceived ideas about how things should happen.
Learnin’ to go with the flow…
Now It’s Your Turn
What can you let go of this holiday season? What difference will that make?